Introducing Pegging Into Your Sex Life


The best place to start is to make it about pleasure plain and simple. We all love pleasing our partners and with a little communication if you position it right, your partner will hopefully go for it! What you want to do is put the focus on exploring anal pleasure. If you lead with "I want you to femdom and dominate me" or "I bought this giant strap-on hubby!" you might not get the response you are looking for. So guys and girls, whatever your ultimate goal is, pleasure is an easy starting ground. Encourage your partner to get comfortable with exploring ass play with fingers and small toys...perhaps even a tongue. Let them see that the extra stimulation is a crazy turn on. If cleanliness comes up as an objective, don't let that discourage you. It's a valid concern and if not addressed, your partner will not take the leap with you. Check out these suggestions on keeping it clean!

Once you have anal play underway you can approach them about pegging. Again, don't lead in with "You're going to be my bitch" but rather "I'd love to feel you behind me" or "I'd love to be wielding the toy that brings you so much pleasure". You'll have more success introducing the idea of pegging to your partner if you continue on with the pleasure theme than broaching role reversal or exploring submissive/dominant sides. If you get the green light, congratulations! It's time to buy a strapon together. Whether it's at a local toy store or online, let your partner be involved in picking out the type. The goal is for it to be pleasurable for both of you and if you're both enjoying yourselves you have a better chance of a long and happy pegging life together. The market on pegging toys has exploded in recent years so the choices are endless. Whether it's harnessed or strapless, vibrating or squirting, have fun choosing one! Both of you need to be vocal about what your comfortable with. Size, shape, and look all need to factor into it. Definitely start small, something around 1-1.5" in width to start and perhaps choose a more toyish looking dildo as opposed to a realistic one.

After you've ordered or purchased your strap-on, talk positions. For some women it can be a shock to see their men on their hands and knees, ass up in the air and for some men taking a submissive position can be a deal breaker. Your aim as a couple is to make sure you're both comfortable with the actual act of it. It's a misconception that pegging is 100% a submissive act. You can start by having him dom from the bottom! There are several positions that will make him feel in control. Also keep in mind that not all positions are conducive to pleasure for a first time so if you're approaching it from a comfort point of view, avoid the positions where she can drive too deep too hard. Pick out a few and see what works for you both!

Once you've rocked the casbah a few times you'll want to make sure you don't make pegging the focus every time you fuck. Vary things up! A lot of folks who crave pegging want it all the time. Remember your partner is just finding their grove so to speak and will still need to enjoy your usual romps. Perhaps start with pegging and finish with fucking so no one feels like they're missing out.

Now if your ultimate goal is femdom you'll want to take it to the next level. Introduce some pegging porn! The pegging industry has a definite slant towards femdom so try and find one that is mild. Hopefully it will open up dialogue and give her or him some cues. You can also substitute porn for a pegging fantasy, many can be found on Literotica or in my personal library here. Don't be upset it he or she doesn't jump at the idea. Again, you'll want to be open about what a HUGE turn on being submissive/dominant will be.

Adding in some non-threatening props will give your pegging a dom flare! Start with things like restraints, crop, blindfold, etc. Ladies, seeing your man restrained can bring out your inner dom so don't be afraid to give it a try. It doesn't have to be about making him your sex slave - at first! Baby steps are important if you're at all hesitant. Try adding in some verbal cues as it will help guide your partner. If you like something they've done, reinforce it with praise and encouragement. Dom/sub roles don't always come natural to people so don't get discouraged if they aren't like a pegging femdom porn come to life! If panties and chastity are on your list, really ease into those themes with caution. Communication is key to successful pegging - as you try new things always talk to each other to see where you are as far as comfort zone and limits. Remember, anything worth doing may take time!